On this date, in Poland, we celebrate Mother's day and this is very special day for me to say l o u d, to every person who follows my blog how I L O V E the most beautiful creature in this World- my MOM. I think every mom is special and there is no a bad mom. You may have different opinions, you may have different mothers and different view on love and family. However for each child, their mom is the most important person, no matter how old are you. I believe that there is not a bad mom, because every mom, which takes a decision of having or even abort child, she has a super power to do it. This power could be anything as we struggle with everyday life and sometimes we are not sure about anything we are doing. do not blame. do not blame anyone, who hurt you and do not judge. Keep your opinion for yourself and when someone hurt you, never hurt back. I am very proud of my mom's work that she taught me these values. As far as I remember I never hurt anyone, consciously ( and believe me or not, everyday I met people, from whom I should just cut off).
Since already few years, my mom became my Bible. My friends know that I call her for every single thing, no matter if I am in Colombia, Holland or Poland, texting her few times per day is very regular thing as well. For me she is one of the person, who gives power to live and teaches every single person, as well her patients : how to be positive in life. What is more, she can also "kill me" with her hard questions and one of this question I would like to ask you.
" What would you like to try / or to do, if you were sure that it will be a success " ?
yeah, what would I like to try ?
Well, each of us would have different answers.
For sure I would launch my own business, build my own independence ( as there is nothing more important for me as love, family and my own independence), then I would probably adopt Colombian girl, show her the world like my mom did to me. Then maybe I will fall in love.
these are all plans, dreams, imagination of the future we make based on our today's life.
We are trying to imagine, what the future can bring and we constantly think what will happen if..
My mom was always trying to teach me to focus on a presence and do not make plans. Unfortunately this is very German of me and I love and intend to make plans everyday. I even plan my tomorrow's look, my breakfast lunch dinner, nap during day and shower. I plan because I dont like have this burden and I really do not like to follow people or services we use everyday. I have to plan at what time I will make my groceries, because I do not like when it is too crowded or when it is immedietaly after my school, from where I bring heavy books/ laptop. ( haha ok I am not that f* up, it only sounds that bad :))
then she says S T O P. think about what you have to do today and for tomorrow.
When I was telling her about my super hard exam, which I am going to have after summer ( I know, long time from now) she said : N, do not think if you will pass or not, do not make excuses that it will be hard to study for, do not think how hard it will be that time and how much time you will have to spend on studying. BUT focus on preparing homework for every class and write down questions regarding problems you do not understand. Then, by following this process, you will pass.
Sometimes she also asks me ' what kind of person would you like to be? what kind of people would you like to attract?
Once she asked me to write down those things and read them after one year. Well, to be honest I did my homework, after which I noticed how 'ok' is sometimes to stop and think about things you would never think about or stop your busy life for couple of mins and remind yourself who you are and what you want achieve, with who you want to be and if the things you do are good or bad too you.
She also says, that sometimes letting go person, problem hurt less that keeping this 'rubbish' around you. In my opinion, sometimes it is just too hard to do it but I hope that one day each of us will have enough strenght to do so.
That is why we should say more often YES instead no. If you want to be like this walking exclamation mark ! you have to start saying YES more often.
Too often some tragedies wake us up to live and to see and give good. You do not have to wait for NYE to start something new, to open new chapter of life, to finish unhealthy relationship, which do not make you happy anymore. Too often in life we say NO, in order to live more comfortable. We promise each other things, which will never take place, we want to quit smoking or drinking or we want to be on a diet but saying NO is just more comfy for now.
should not be then an exercise for each of us to say more of YES ?
what does saying YES mean ? to start new day with positive way of thinking. Every morning when we have to get up at 6.30 am ( or sometimes earlier) , why dont we actually get up instead of snoozing for next 15min, which cause running to the shower and not having healthy breakfast? Saying YES also means to compliment more, to help more and to give more love and tranquility, which people need, and they need it urgently. Saying YES means also taking your friend for a walk and spend some quality time together, instead of exchanging long and sometimes unclear messages. ( but i was talking about this in the previous post).
sit down, start inhale with your nose and exhale with your mouth. and listen what your intuition is trying to tell you and say it YES.
- leave people, who hurt you
- stay with people, who love you
-forgive person, who hurt you the most. do not keep this negativity inside you
- accept yourself as you are, because you are perfect and unique
- create what scares you the most
- be happy, everyday, be happy from everything you get
-have a hope, that tomorrow is going to be even better
- take life less serious
E N J O Y every miracle, every secret, every doubt and uncertainty, what world has for us.
Please, ask yourself this above mentioned questions, and think. Disconnect yourself for one minute.
M O M, have a very wonderful day. Although I cannot hug you and kiss you in person, you know that you are the most important thing in my life and this will never change. The love I send you, no one will never receive. You are my teacher and my everything.
March 1995, Canary Islands, I was 3 months old.
With Love and best wishes for all Polish Moms